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Thoughts on Onlyfans as a 38 yo man
Dec. 6th, 2025 02:02 pmOnlyfans not only offers opportunity to stave off homelessness but also potential to provide a beautiful, comfortable if conservatively shamed life. As a man with photo and video knowledge, I’m not too old and won’t be for many years. I just need to relax my age gap rigidity… and that’s quite easy to do. If we can provide a beautiful life for one another, there’s little reason to care about age.
I don’t mind the routine of uploads, editing, developing consistency… but I’d prefer still being welcomed by my family and friends. My sister and father never cared much about it. Every decision faces scrutiny.
Whose scrutiny am I willing to endure?
My most pressing concern is that I want to create beautiful, legitimate art. I’ll be using all manner of focal lengths and controlled lighting conditions to do that. It will be expensive… and worth it.
What I’d like to do is specialize in fashion and cosplay portraiture and maybe racing photography then merge those two. Besides, Dad's Viper and automotive ties, plus my brother's massive Star Wars fan cave and cosplay... along with all his friends and associated community make this all potentially lucrative and fulfilling.
That sounds sort of epic.
My father mentioned missing his Pentax ME Super… and said he had a few expensive lenses for it which is a good sign. He’s getting back into comfort with what he loved about things that aren’t pressing right now. That’s really helpful for what I’m trying to do because I’d like to be the photo and video specialist people call on when they really want something to be remembered beautifully.
Dad still had this fading, obscure, “use what you have” speech but unfortunately, photography doesn’t work that way… especially when trying to capture a variety of environments in creative ways. Different focal length create different images. Not even cropping can recreate them.
I definitely should have focused on this years ago instead of accepting the musical instruments into my life. I wish I had and I have to live with that.
Now… I’m considering onlyfans. Yeah, I’d love to be a devoted photographer for a 25-ish year old cosplay creator on onlyfans and I’d even eventually own a Panasonic LUMIX GH7 for cinema quality video. We’d probably both wind up with wicked powerful computers, hers for gaming and mine for editing and processing files.
25-ish years old usually has at least an idea of their desired direction in life and I won't feel like I'm taking advantage if we're both of the same mind, already. Values-based relationships are more important than age-adherence.
That’s something I would have died for back in my 20s anyway… and an age gap means very little to some people.
I’d also like to shoot long telephoto shots for my sister's kids; zoomed action for her son’s sports or tight shots of her daughter playing music. I’d also love to get amazingly framed photos of the whole family against Disney landmarks compressed in tight with a telephoto somehow but crowds would need to line up perfectly for that sort of thing.
I love light. I always have. Flashlights, flashes, high powered lasers, how the light bounces around in incense and fog or smoke… RGB LEDs… black lights, handheld fog machines like the Smoke Ninja are freaking epic and I can carry a couple in a backpack. They can create a fog and diffusion space for colored light backgrounds for cars and people. Wind permitting.
There’s awesome shit made possible these days.
I’m just stuck on the slow build and I’m entertaining sexual pleasure for financial benefit and maybe a loving relationship with someone on my same wavelength, there.
Look, sexual needs and intimacy needs are essential and I want someone who craves my touch as much as I crave mutual embrace. I want a hardcore couch cuddler… someone thin and/or petite and frankly lightweight who loves having her picture taken or video capture of her dancing.
That’s a rather young mindset but I’m totally here for it.
Thing is… therapy, communication studies… I’m not super fun or cool while I devote myself to breaking family patterns and healing trauma. I’d love someone willing to lighten me up… and laugh with me. It's also important they understand the value of therapy, tantra and mindful intention in daily life.
…someone who cares about the environment.
Big asks.
I don’t mind the routine of uploads, editing, developing consistency… but I’d prefer still being welcomed by my family and friends. My sister and father never cared much about it. Every decision faces scrutiny.
Whose scrutiny am I willing to endure?
My most pressing concern is that I want to create beautiful, legitimate art. I’ll be using all manner of focal lengths and controlled lighting conditions to do that. It will be expensive… and worth it.
What I’d like to do is specialize in fashion and cosplay portraiture and maybe racing photography then merge those two. Besides, Dad's Viper and automotive ties, plus my brother's massive Star Wars fan cave and cosplay... along with all his friends and associated community make this all potentially lucrative and fulfilling.
That sounds sort of epic.
My father mentioned missing his Pentax ME Super… and said he had a few expensive lenses for it which is a good sign. He’s getting back into comfort with what he loved about things that aren’t pressing right now. That’s really helpful for what I’m trying to do because I’d like to be the photo and video specialist people call on when they really want something to be remembered beautifully.
Dad still had this fading, obscure, “use what you have” speech but unfortunately, photography doesn’t work that way… especially when trying to capture a variety of environments in creative ways. Different focal length create different images. Not even cropping can recreate them.
I definitely should have focused on this years ago instead of accepting the musical instruments into my life. I wish I had and I have to live with that.
Now… I’m considering onlyfans. Yeah, I’d love to be a devoted photographer for a 25-ish year old cosplay creator on onlyfans and I’d even eventually own a Panasonic LUMIX GH7 for cinema quality video. We’d probably both wind up with wicked powerful computers, hers for gaming and mine for editing and processing files.
25-ish years old usually has at least an idea of their desired direction in life and I won't feel like I'm taking advantage if we're both of the same mind, already. Values-based relationships are more important than age-adherence.
That’s something I would have died for back in my 20s anyway… and an age gap means very little to some people.
I’d also like to shoot long telephoto shots for my sister's kids; zoomed action for her son’s sports or tight shots of her daughter playing music. I’d also love to get amazingly framed photos of the whole family against Disney landmarks compressed in tight with a telephoto somehow but crowds would need to line up perfectly for that sort of thing.
I love light. I always have. Flashlights, flashes, high powered lasers, how the light bounces around in incense and fog or smoke… RGB LEDs… black lights, handheld fog machines like the Smoke Ninja are freaking epic and I can carry a couple in a backpack. They can create a fog and diffusion space for colored light backgrounds for cars and people. Wind permitting.
There’s awesome shit made possible these days.
I’m just stuck on the slow build and I’m entertaining sexual pleasure for financial benefit and maybe a loving relationship with someone on my same wavelength, there.
Look, sexual needs and intimacy needs are essential and I want someone who craves my touch as much as I crave mutual embrace. I want a hardcore couch cuddler… someone thin and/or petite and frankly lightweight who loves having her picture taken or video capture of her dancing.
That’s a rather young mindset but I’m totally here for it.
Thing is… therapy, communication studies… I’m not super fun or cool while I devote myself to breaking family patterns and healing trauma. I’d love someone willing to lighten me up… and laugh with me. It's also important they understand the value of therapy, tantra and mindful intention in daily life.
…someone who cares about the environment.
Big asks.
