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seeyatMetacognition, the ability to recognize and correct our thoughts and understanding is apparently such a rare trait yet it's often distinguished above traditional intelligence. Additionally, emotional intelligence has been cited as the most accurate predictor of career success.
...and it's all teachable stuff.
Emotional intelligence and metacognition both require active mindfulness and relationships with friends, family and partners who allow us to sit in that space and relax through our processing. They also both have their own level of rational educational frameworks.
They're just rarely prioritized let along spoken about.
Punishing a kid or even an adult for mistakes doesn’t encourage deeper thought. In fact, it stunts deeper thought. Metacognition is encouraged by mentally reflecting on the thoughts and decisions that led to a mistake.
For parents who claim, "you should have known better," what you're really saying is, "I never bothered to properly educate you on the understanding and cognition to make choices like this but I'm going to punish you for it instead of teaching you now... which only teaches your kid to hide more, conceal their decisions and feelings and avoid you when considering complex issues.
I’m a firm believer in standardized communication courses in schools. Educating common and uncommon models from Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication to E-Prime because I know tons of people who would have eaten e-prime up just for their own sense of satisfied accuracy.
The system can’t change until we collectively acknowledge where it’s “broken” and our most basic concern always points to one fundamental flaw... Ignorance.
Both general ignorance, cultural ignorance and conditioned rigidity of thought patterns which is where metacognition can come into play.
When kids mess up, parents can sit and ask questions and even help the kid mentally work backwards to understand why they made those decisions. That could encourage more self-aware, metacognitive adults.
One of my main concerns there is that I’ve learned from experience that some parents have zero time for their kids with the stress of work and personal lifestyle. Some parents also don’t understand how learning works. Kids learn from routine.
You can’t teach a kid once then tell them to fuck off every time they get it wrong.
Learning metacognition requires ample time and mental energy to actively and consistently help them walk through what they did and how it affected the world. That’s the way they’ll internalize metacognition.
Another concern I have is that systemically brainwashed, potentially toxic masculine people might scream, “kids gotta learn the world ain’t gonna baby em!” and they won’t bother helping their kids learn that necessary skill, thus perpetuating a half-witted cognitive development cycle.
...and it's all teachable stuff.
Emotional intelligence and metacognition both require active mindfulness and relationships with friends, family and partners who allow us to sit in that space and relax through our processing. They also both have their own level of rational educational frameworks.
They're just rarely prioritized let along spoken about.
Punishing a kid or even an adult for mistakes doesn’t encourage deeper thought. In fact, it stunts deeper thought. Metacognition is encouraged by mentally reflecting on the thoughts and decisions that led to a mistake.
For parents who claim, "you should have known better," what you're really saying is, "I never bothered to properly educate you on the understanding and cognition to make choices like this but I'm going to punish you for it instead of teaching you now... which only teaches your kid to hide more, conceal their decisions and feelings and avoid you when considering complex issues.
I’m a firm believer in standardized communication courses in schools. Educating common and uncommon models from Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication to E-Prime because I know tons of people who would have eaten e-prime up just for their own sense of satisfied accuracy.
The system can’t change until we collectively acknowledge where it’s “broken” and our most basic concern always points to one fundamental flaw... Ignorance.
Both general ignorance, cultural ignorance and conditioned rigidity of thought patterns which is where metacognition can come into play.
When kids mess up, parents can sit and ask questions and even help the kid mentally work backwards to understand why they made those decisions. That could encourage more self-aware, metacognitive adults.
One of my main concerns there is that I’ve learned from experience that some parents have zero time for their kids with the stress of work and personal lifestyle. Some parents also don’t understand how learning works. Kids learn from routine.
You can’t teach a kid once then tell them to fuck off every time they get it wrong.
Learning metacognition requires ample time and mental energy to actively and consistently help them walk through what they did and how it affected the world. That’s the way they’ll internalize metacognition.
Another concern I have is that systemically brainwashed, potentially toxic masculine people might scream, “kids gotta learn the world ain’t gonna baby em!” and they won’t bother helping their kids learn that necessary skill, thus perpetuating a half-witted cognitive development cycle.
Thoughts
Date: 2025-12-30 09:01 pm (UTC)Well, rare for people to bootstrap it, which is to say, people with high intrapersonal intelligence or perhaps existential intelligence. But it's widely taught in philosophy, psychology, and logic classes as well as several religions such as Buddhism.
>>Additionally, emotional intelligence has been cited as the most accurate predictor of career success.<<
That's more about making people like you, which isn't necessarily the same.
>>Punishing a kid or even an adult for mistakes doesn’t encourage deeper thought.<<
Depends on the type. Natural consequences and logical consequences are more likely to support learning than random ones. Frex, if you don't do your homework, you don't get to decide your after-school schedule anymore and have to do the homework first, that is a logical consequence. Not getting to eat dessert is not connected and thus not likely to work.
>>For parents who claim, "you should have known better," what you're really saying is, "I never bothered to properly educate you <<
Prevailingly true.
Re: Thoughts
Date: 2025-12-30 09:32 pm (UTC)