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I've noticed some people in the kink community, particularly BDSM kinksters and doms, have taken issue with my boundaries against dominance. I have a fundamental boundary against 'power-over' structured dynamics, D/s and domination dynamics. I believe there is a conditioned competitive dominance mentality which only finds secure presence when in a position of control because our society is built on hierarchical dominance structures which condition certain insecurities and competences that I fundamentally disagree with and want to only understand and empathize with. These structures are built on conditioning our neurobiology to favor dominance, power play or submission to circumstances. They play on the way we learn and develop to shape winners and losers... toughness. The only 'softness' in these social structures is often viewed as weakness.

I prefer encouragement, pleasure play, positive stimulation and sensualism. ...and it's a common question to ask, "What are your boundaries?" to which I often say I don't do D/s or dominance.

Without fail, someone presses the issue as though there's some insecurity or perhaps a desire to change my mind... or to dominate the value system at play.

...it's okay to acknowledge when someone's boundaries trigger us. That's how we become more aware of ourselves.

The thing about dom consciousness is that it fundamentally wants to know, to be in control, to hold the power and understanding and to be right.

THAT is literally why I have no interest in feeding that particular wolf in me.