This is not a “normal” life
Dec. 4th, 2025 08:14 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
seeyatI’m having trouble reconciling the fact that I’m part of a heavily conservative community, attached to a noticeably conservative values-oriented public guardianship system that has thus far only ever devoted resources to permitting independence to people who chose parenthood instead of a childfree life.
It’s like they keep a massive selection of borderline capable, social and emotionally abandoned adults on the backburner until one seems to have a promising family or shows effort toward parenthood
This is fishy af and it’s not just because I’m next to Lake St Clair.
I can’t speak for all these systems. I can only speak for my experience with Macomb County, Michigan and the Mount Clemens District Court.
“Legally Incapacitated” quite literally means they take your rights away and so far, the only people I’ve seen gain their freedom and rights are those who have been shifted into fatherhood roles.
I’ve always been non-traditional in how I present, feminine in some ways, more flowy and fearful; people-pleasy, especially in public housing. I was once moved into a slumlord-owned complex near Detroit with a convicted sex-offender who actively defended himself beating the shit out of a dog for jumping. “How else will he learn?” As he packed our small kitchen table with all manner of weed parafanilia and had massive orders of alcohol dropped off by his dad…
I think Renae Buttler and her husband should be investigated. Their housing conditions are questionable at best, rules are non-existent until it comes to HVAC and twice monthly laundry access. They own at least 9 such places near Detroit Michigan.
I left there in less than a week. …finding a Bumble connection who offered me their spare room for less rent.
I’m straightedge and have no interest in associating with communities that seem enmeshed with this system. I have felt unsafe and insecure in how we’re encouraged to present and suppress simultaneously.
As a result of my self-protective behaviors and finding my own places and friends to move in with, I’ve been called “combative” which is meant to be a term used to describe physical action against a caregiver and not disagreement over the safety of a living space.
Don’t get me wrong, I did once punch a resident for repeatedly hitting on my mother about a decade ago. That was after being physically assaulted at least half a dozen times by various residents and shrugging it off as mental health concerns and stress from living conditions.
I’ve been living in fear for most of my adult life, even after a childhood of unmet emotional needs with ample financial resources for all my expensive passions for media arts and creative pursuit.
Our family has a “lake house.” The home our grandparents built on a local-ish lake, about 2 hours West-ish from here, converted by our father. Dad’s a retired and still well-respected mechanical engineer.
…yeah, the system would love that family as a breeding farm.
On top of all this, I have family claiming I make no effort to connect with them and now totally ignore the entire history of conflict in itself. Divorces don’t just pop up from nothing.
We’re living in systems of patriarchal dominance and self-betrayal and yes, I have a problem with that.
It’s like they keep a massive selection of borderline capable, social and emotionally abandoned adults on the backburner until one seems to have a promising family or shows effort toward parenthood
This is fishy af and it’s not just because I’m next to Lake St Clair.
I can’t speak for all these systems. I can only speak for my experience with Macomb County, Michigan and the Mount Clemens District Court.
“Legally Incapacitated” quite literally means they take your rights away and so far, the only people I’ve seen gain their freedom and rights are those who have been shifted into fatherhood roles.
I’ve always been non-traditional in how I present, feminine in some ways, more flowy and fearful; people-pleasy, especially in public housing. I was once moved into a slumlord-owned complex near Detroit with a convicted sex-offender who actively defended himself beating the shit out of a dog for jumping. “How else will he learn?” As he packed our small kitchen table with all manner of weed parafanilia and had massive orders of alcohol dropped off by his dad…
I think Renae Buttler and her husband should be investigated. Their housing conditions are questionable at best, rules are non-existent until it comes to HVAC and twice monthly laundry access. They own at least 9 such places near Detroit Michigan.
I left there in less than a week. …finding a Bumble connection who offered me their spare room for less rent.
I’m straightedge and have no interest in associating with communities that seem enmeshed with this system. I have felt unsafe and insecure in how we’re encouraged to present and suppress simultaneously.
As a result of my self-protective behaviors and finding my own places and friends to move in with, I’ve been called “combative” which is meant to be a term used to describe physical action against a caregiver and not disagreement over the safety of a living space.
Don’t get me wrong, I did once punch a resident for repeatedly hitting on my mother about a decade ago. That was after being physically assaulted at least half a dozen times by various residents and shrugging it off as mental health concerns and stress from living conditions.
I’ve been living in fear for most of my adult life, even after a childhood of unmet emotional needs with ample financial resources for all my expensive passions for media arts and creative pursuit.
Our family has a “lake house.” The home our grandparents built on a local-ish lake, about 2 hours West-ish from here, converted by our father. Dad’s a retired and still well-respected mechanical engineer.
…yeah, the system would love that family as a breeding farm.
On top of all this, I have family claiming I make no effort to connect with them and now totally ignore the entire history of conflict in itself. Divorces don’t just pop up from nothing.
We’re living in systems of patriarchal dominance and self-betrayal and yes, I have a problem with that.
