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Social Maturity
Oct. 14th, 2025 11:49 amI want to explore the concept of social maturity. Not emotional maturity alone... emotional maturity is self and other serving. We balance it within self-awareness that we then project onto others.
Social maturity is something I've been thinking about. I don't know if I've ever read about it but the framework of an idea took root and I want to flow with it.
So, othering... othering is labeling others and categorizing as fundamentally different from us. "Othering" is a socially immature concept. It limits our social capacity... makes our prospective community smaller.
There's a binary sort of infighting happening across the US and I think there's a clear core for each argument. One agrees with and supports the current system of governance and all subsystems to a degree of self-destructive determination. The other fundamentally supports human life and the freedom for it to exist safely, securely and emotionally liberated.
I side with life. The life side seems to prioritize health, empathy, emotional expression and fluidity, community support, art and creative pursuit. That's a bias and doesn't really belong in this objective commentary. I've apparently learned nothing from my family in politics and successfully enduring small businesses.
I find "choosing sides" or even defining sides is a socially immature construct. It's essentially hardening our hearts and minds into rigid stones then digging our feet in to oppose the proposed "other," whose side is doing the same thing.
I believe a majority of us are intellectual enough to observe the framework of this social system and see it with open minds while observing the universal nature of humanity with open hearts. That just isn't how the educational framework of this current system operates. ...rather, it operates in such ways that intentionally allow us to pick a side and hunker down.
I don't speak of this from the perspective of someone with exceptional emotional maturity. While I was once almost too attuned with my emotions, I've hardened in recent years. There are some places, circumstances and people in particular with whom my brain automatically jumps into analysis mode and is afraid to show any level of emotion at all. I often leave interactions with those people feeling tense and tired, meeting my pillow with a level of exhaustion unlike others. I then wake up with less energy and therefore bandwidth for recognizing my somatic experience in ways that translate outward; less tolerance for perceived bullshit.
Boating tends to be one of those circumstances but I mean nothing against anyone who loves the water.
I'd like to pick up a book called Emotional Intelligence. I can't guarantee I'll read it but I may focus on it in audiobook form. There are studies indicating emotional intelligence (EQ) is one of the most reliable indicators of career progress and social success.
When I consider that, along with bringing in my interpretation of social maturity... I can see some pretty interesting things. So, not everyone "needs" all that much social maturity, especially when you're happy and successful while functioning in community clusters or small friend and family groups.
It's functionally "acceptable" (not morally, just individual function) to hold some biases, contempt and even cluster-shared hatreds for others with whom you share very limited interaction. I think this is the bread and butter of where biased news and social media outlets shape and maintain "hive mentality." I just might hold that exploration for another entry or perhaps I'll touch on it in a moment... now that my brain has latched onto the idea I may just write about it now.
I love ADHD. Isn't it fantasmalastic?
When a community cluster "gestalt" consciousness latches onto a certain level of biases and beliefs, they create invisible boundaries which prevent new ideas from entering and retain the general framework of their belief systems. The biases also allow for a "shared hatred" or something to gossip, complain and sympathize about... giving them a bit of a camaraderie and "loyalty" framework.
...there. I wrote a little about it. I'm getting a call...
...something something... small clusters can fixate attention on individual tasks... something something... great success when that task has substantially organized complexity ...something something... specialized attention ...I'm sort of bored and want a cup of tea or coffee.
Task orientation should never trump collective empathy. I want to emphasize my firm belief in the interdependent nature of all the earth's biosphere and how our species functions more effectively and safely; nondestructively when we're able to communicate effectively, empathically and expeditiously. ...from an interdependent and collectively receptive lens.
Social maturity is something I've been thinking about. I don't know if I've ever read about it but the framework of an idea took root and I want to flow with it.
So, othering... othering is labeling others and categorizing as fundamentally different from us. "Othering" is a socially immature concept. It limits our social capacity... makes our prospective community smaller.
There's a binary sort of infighting happening across the US and I think there's a clear core for each argument. One agrees with and supports the current system of governance and all subsystems to a degree of self-destructive determination. The other fundamentally supports human life and the freedom for it to exist safely, securely and emotionally liberated.
I side with life. The life side seems to prioritize health, empathy, emotional expression and fluidity, community support, art and creative pursuit. That's a bias and doesn't really belong in this objective commentary. I've apparently learned nothing from my family in politics and successfully enduring small businesses.
I find "choosing sides" or even defining sides is a socially immature construct. It's essentially hardening our hearts and minds into rigid stones then digging our feet in to oppose the proposed "other," whose side is doing the same thing.
I believe a majority of us are intellectual enough to observe the framework of this social system and see it with open minds while observing the universal nature of humanity with open hearts. That just isn't how the educational framework of this current system operates. ...rather, it operates in such ways that intentionally allow us to pick a side and hunker down.
I don't speak of this from the perspective of someone with exceptional emotional maturity. While I was once almost too attuned with my emotions, I've hardened in recent years. There are some places, circumstances and people in particular with whom my brain automatically jumps into analysis mode and is afraid to show any level of emotion at all. I often leave interactions with those people feeling tense and tired, meeting my pillow with a level of exhaustion unlike others. I then wake up with less energy and therefore bandwidth for recognizing my somatic experience in ways that translate outward; less tolerance for perceived bullshit.
Boating tends to be one of those circumstances but I mean nothing against anyone who loves the water.
I'd like to pick up a book called Emotional Intelligence. I can't guarantee I'll read it but I may focus on it in audiobook form. There are studies indicating emotional intelligence (EQ) is one of the most reliable indicators of career progress and social success.
When I consider that, along with bringing in my interpretation of social maturity... I can see some pretty interesting things. So, not everyone "needs" all that much social maturity, especially when you're happy and successful while functioning in community clusters or small friend and family groups.
It's functionally "acceptable" (not morally, just individual function) to hold some biases, contempt and even cluster-shared hatreds for others with whom you share very limited interaction. I think this is the bread and butter of where biased news and social media outlets shape and maintain "hive mentality." I just might hold that exploration for another entry or perhaps I'll touch on it in a moment... now that my brain has latched onto the idea I may just write about it now.
I love ADHD. Isn't it fantasmalastic?
When a community cluster "gestalt" consciousness latches onto a certain level of biases and beliefs, they create invisible boundaries which prevent new ideas from entering and retain the general framework of their belief systems. The biases also allow for a "shared hatred" or something to gossip, complain and sympathize about... giving them a bit of a camaraderie and "loyalty" framework.
...there. I wrote a little about it. I'm getting a call...
...something something... small clusters can fixate attention on individual tasks... something something... great success when that task has substantially organized complexity ...something something... specialized attention ...I'm sort of bored and want a cup of tea or coffee.
Task orientation should never trump collective empathy. I want to emphasize my firm belief in the interdependent nature of all the earth's biosphere and how our species functions more effectively and safely; nondestructively when we're able to communicate effectively, empathically and expeditiously. ...from an interdependent and collectively receptive lens.
