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seeyatThere are people I've met who seem to believe a 'full' or 'busy' life is meaningful or meets their needs. They seem to be the type who work so hard to schedule things so much they never give themselves time to feel or even process their experiences and reflect.
That can be a dangerous sort of community for people with nothing to do and all manner of time on their hands.
They seem to be the type who believe all anyone could possibly need is 4 walls, a roof, a bit of food and a television.
...that's a terrifyingly ignorant understanding of human needs.
People, by our nature, are curious. We're creative... we're industrious and social on fundamental and necessary levels.
It's true, it's probably possible to drain the brain of all semblance of knowledge about its own personal desires and shove that mind in front of a TV with a bucket of lard and a diet coke but the level of abuse that's sustaining on our nervous system is probably so great that person will rage at the first sign of confusion.
A fulfilling life is one with regular novelty, social expression, human touch, deep conversation and communion with the natural world around us. It's not all noise... but also significant silence and introspective appreciation for what is and what was.
There's a depth to art which feeds me better than any food has ever sustained me. It's a silent appreciation of what others are trying to say in words they may not even be able to find.
There's opportunity for adept interpretation or simply simple appreciation for what the pieces make us feel.
Then, there are the conversations which can arise around that art.
Art is expression tangibly manifest.
...and expression is a deep need. So, finding receptive and mutually expressive community is important to me.
I also think D&D is a vibe but that's just my personal combination of interests. Most D&D players would be into voice acting and dressing up for cons and events... or just sitting around a table at their campaign.
...also snacks.
I didn't touch much on sex. I think I want to. Sexual expression and sensual exploration of a partner's body is the closest thing to a conversation we can have with another nervous system and it also robustifies our own self-awareness and understanding.
We all have needs for intimacy, self-expression, to be known, to be seen, to be loved and appreciated. We deserve to have those needs met, each and every one of us.
To deny all these needs is a traumatic form of emotional avoidance, denial of base motivators and suppression of our most essential self. Avoidance and isolation or segregation from any needs is an invitation for unknown traumas which could require years or even decades of therapy.
A "full" life or a "busy" life can just be a life of avoidance and denial of ones truest, most intelligent self... and I don't want to live that way.
I want to actually live.
That can be a dangerous sort of community for people with nothing to do and all manner of time on their hands.
They seem to be the type who believe all anyone could possibly need is 4 walls, a roof, a bit of food and a television.
...that's a terrifyingly ignorant understanding of human needs.
People, by our nature, are curious. We're creative... we're industrious and social on fundamental and necessary levels.
It's true, it's probably possible to drain the brain of all semblance of knowledge about its own personal desires and shove that mind in front of a TV with a bucket of lard and a diet coke but the level of abuse that's sustaining on our nervous system is probably so great that person will rage at the first sign of confusion.
A fulfilling life is one with regular novelty, social expression, human touch, deep conversation and communion with the natural world around us. It's not all noise... but also significant silence and introspective appreciation for what is and what was.
There's a depth to art which feeds me better than any food has ever sustained me. It's a silent appreciation of what others are trying to say in words they may not even be able to find.
There's opportunity for adept interpretation or simply simple appreciation for what the pieces make us feel.
Then, there are the conversations which can arise around that art.
Art is expression tangibly manifest.
...and expression is a deep need. So, finding receptive and mutually expressive community is important to me.
I also think D&D is a vibe but that's just my personal combination of interests. Most D&D players would be into voice acting and dressing up for cons and events... or just sitting around a table at their campaign.
...also snacks.
I didn't touch much on sex. I think I want to. Sexual expression and sensual exploration of a partner's body is the closest thing to a conversation we can have with another nervous system and it also robustifies our own self-awareness and understanding.
We all have needs for intimacy, self-expression, to be known, to be seen, to be loved and appreciated. We deserve to have those needs met, each and every one of us.
To deny all these needs is a traumatic form of emotional avoidance, denial of base motivators and suppression of our most essential self. Avoidance and isolation or segregation from any needs is an invitation for unknown traumas which could require years or even decades of therapy.
A "full" life or a "busy" life can just be a life of avoidance and denial of ones truest, most intelligent self... and I don't want to live that way.
I want to actually live.
